Posts by Mary Waring
What’s holding you back from leading the life you really want?
So often women have a fear around money and carry feelings of guilt and shame. You may think these feelings are experienced by women on a low income or women who struggle to meet their spending needs. But these disempowered emotions are not in fact related to how much money you have. You are as…
Read MoreAre you on the right path?
Have you ever felt you weren’t sure whether you were on the right path? Maybe, not sure exactly what was ahead of you? I had this experience recently when I went out on a nice long walk in the hills. The weather hadn’t been great, and certainly on the higher levels on the hill,…
Read MoreWhat happens when you stop listening to that protective voice?
Here’s what happened to me… The pendulum that was so fully in the “Be safe” zone has now swung fully to the “Oh, it looks fun. Let’s try it” zone. Wild camping, open water swimming, aerial yoga. After decades of playing save and hearing “Don’t do it” I’m now hearing “Give it a go. You…
Read MoreAfter decades of playing safe, I’m now hearing “Give it a go”
Standing in the icy cold river inching forward just one small step at a time. My ankles feel as though they’ve lost all feeling and my teeth are chattering noisily. I don’t know how much of the teeth chattering is from the icy water and how much is from the tight ball of fear lying…
Read More“Thank you for your directness”
Sometimes coaching needs to be non-directive. You let the coachee get to their own answer by asking the right questions. They then end up with a solution that’s right for them and their circumstances rather than a solution someone else thinks is right. They are then much more likely to want to achieve this.…
Read MoreWhat do weight loss and your finances have in common?
So often people have a New Year’s Resolution to lose weight and/or a New Year’s Resolution to manage their finances better. Now, at first thought, you might not think they have very much in common. But actually, there’s a lot of similarities between losing weight and managing your finances. For each, there are some quite…
Read MoreLet’s talk about self care
Do you treat your self-care as an important priority, or does it always fall further down the list of what’s important? It’s so common, especially during a busy time, for us to think we don’t have a minute to spare. Work, family, friends, home commitments etc always seem to take priority. But consider, what if…
Read MoreMeet a very young Mary
The little girl above, is me. She grew up in a totally dysfunctional family with an alcohol and abusive father and a neglectful, narcissistic mother. Luckily, she had a natural intelligence and soon realised that if she worked hard at school the teachers would be pleased with her and tell her what…
Read More“I thought my husband knew more about finance than me”
So often I talk to women going through divorce who haven’t dealt with finance during the marriage and instead have left managing finances to their partner. It’s quite common, at least with my clients. The wife looks after the house, children etc and the partner looks after the money. But then if they end up…
Read MoreAre you a perfectionist?
It’s easy to think that being a perfectionist is a good thing. Maybe we have the idea that being a perfectionist helps us to achieve what we want, either in work or in our home lives? It is easy to think so. But, there is a big difference between being a perfectionist and working to our…
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